• Not Every Man Who Desires You Can Walk Beside You

    Any man threatened by your independence, your intellect, your spirituality, your sensuality, or your refusal to play small is not for you. He may be fascinated by you. He may desire you. But he is not built to walk beside you. Men like that don’t want a woman; they want a dimmer switch. They want…


  • Bugs Bunny, Woody Woodpecker, and All My Favorite Friends

    What makes you feel nostalgic? Watching my favorite cartoons from childhood. MeTV, an old school television channel that shows television shows from yesteryear started showing cartoons from back in day two years ago and watching these cartoons really got me through some shit after the death of my brother in 2020. These cartoons unlocked so…


  • 2022

    This year was filled with some highs but mostly lows. The highs were the birth of my second grandson and attending a Duran Duran concert. And getting one of those “good” government jobs that Black folks aspired to for decades. But it was a rough year for me again because I lost more people I…


  • A Dedication to My Diddy

    I’ve been owned by a fat, black cat named Diddy for 13 years and I love him very much but I’m saddened by the fact that he’s getting older. Because that means he won’t be a part of my life anymore and it hurts acknowledging that. I wished that our fur babies had the longevity…


  • Reclaiming Joy in Your Life

    I majored in sociology in college because it made sense after reading the first paragraph of the textbook I had been assigned. I had been a sociologist my entire life but didn’t know it. When I was a little girl, I used to go to work with my mother during summer vacations and we would…


  • Diddy the Fat Black Kitty

    Almost 13 years ago, an eight week old black kitten came into my life. He didn’t have a name for several weeks and then my eldest daughter named him Diddy. Because he loves the spotlight and women. Diddy is a naughty critter. Fuck it, he’s bad as hell and although he is considered a senior…


  • An Ode to Donny Hathaway

    I’m a big fan of the singer Donny Hathaway and no matter how many times I listen to his music, I’m in constant awe of his voice. The soulfulness, the emotion, the passion. Just flawless and thats why he is the greatest Black male singer of all time in any genre of music. Let me…


  • Little Girl Weary

    She is still a little girl Despite Her body She has been through a lot Abused Neglected Misused Her mind is weary Black clouds have taken Over sunny days Desperation fills her heart but hope is still there She wonders When will she recover Her optimism Her sense of joy Hoping Praying For better days…


  • Missing My Mommy

    My mama left this world 15 years ago today and it hasn’t been a day in those 15 years that I haven’t thought about her. Especially now since I’m getting older, going through perimenopause and it’s many questions I would love to ask her. Like did she cry like a broken hearted woman one minute…