The Potty Mouth Granny

  • The Madonna/Whore Complex and Black Folks

    The Madonna/Whore Complex is already a cracked mirror. When you angle it toward Black people, the glass doesn’t just crack—it shatters, because race rewires the whole thing. Quick grounding: the Madonna–Whore Complex is the psychological habit (popularized by Freud, refined by feminists) of splitting women into two moral bins. One is pure, nurturing, worthy of…

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  • The Social Construct of Masculinity

    Masculinity is a social construct—and that doesn’t make it fake. It makes it designed, like money, borders, or the concept of “professionalism.” Real in its effects. Invented in its rules. Biology gives us bodies: hormones, muscle distribution, voices that drop or don’t. That’s the raw clay. Masculinity is what societies sculpt out of that clay…

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  • The Normalization of Foolishness

    I will be 55 years old next month if the creek don’t rise, and I’ve never seen such foolishness from a standing president of the United States in my whole damn life. And people are acting like this shit is normal. Somewhere along the way, we got desensitized. Outrage fatigue set in. Every new scandal,…

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  • The Human Side of Myths: Stories of Monsters and Spirits

    Across time and tongue, humanity has told the same stories under different stars. In the hush of night, around fires that crackled with both warmth and warning, people have whispered of spirits that rise, beasts that prowl, and angels that fall. But beneath every monster’s face and every god’s name lies something achingly human —…

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  • Music, Music, Music

    Three years ago, I went to a concert solo—and I had an absolute blast! I went to see Duran Duran, one of my favorite 80s bands of all time. And of course, the night was made even better by the fact that one of my many “don’t-know-they’re-my-men” crushes was there: the band’s lead guitarist, John…

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  • Double Nickels Coming Up Shortly

    In just a few months, I’ll be 55 years old—and I can’t wait. To some people, that probably sounds strange, because society is obsessed with youth and soaked in ageism. But honestly? I don’t give a flying fuck. I’ve lived. I’ve survived. I’ve been through storms most people couldn’t imagine. Health scares. The heartbreak of…

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  • A Message for My People

    Most Black folks are regular people. We go to work and take care of our families. We have regular friends and family members. We live in regular neighborhoods. We lead regular lives. I know that the social media has destroyed the brain cells of so many people and got them thinking stupid shit but damn.…

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  • Selling “Femininity” to Gullible Black Women

    I’m not watching any YouTube videos on femininity. I’m not cutting my hair and getting a long, flowing weave. I’m just going to do what women have been doing for centuries to make it in this world: surviving by their wits if they have any.

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  • Don’t Let Hate Win

    We are living in times where hate rules. Hate is the reason why the current president is in office. Hate of anyone other than themselves but now we all have to suffer. I’m beyond pissed but I can’t afford to have a seizure due to stress. I’m doing my best to not let hate overwhelm…

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  • Eat Them All

    I’m going to be frank. I’m a part of the soon to be working class in this country and I don’t give a rat’s ass about rich people. I don’t expect anything from them. Why? Because historically, they have shown that they don’t care about people like me, a disabled, overweight black woman. Last month,…

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