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Femininity, Performance, and Patriarchy
A question I’ve often pondered is: why is femininity so often centered around men? Below are my thoughts on this question. For centuries, femininity was socially engineered around male desire, male comfort, and male approval. That’s the blunt truth sitting underneath all the lace and perfume. Women were not originally encouraged to “be feminine” for…
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Shysters in Sheep’s Clothing
In light of the recent allegations against Cheyenne Bryant, I think it’s time we had a serious conversation about the rise of self-proclaimed “experts” who don’t know their asses from a hole in the wall. Social media has created an entire economy built on confidence, not competence. Folks gather a ring light, memorize a few…
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The House Patriarchy Built
I’ve noticed something interesting while cruising the social media streets. Men are fed up with patriarchy but are too clueless to realize it. They complain about burnout, depression, isolation, lack of purpose, fear of failure, impossible expectations, and emotional emptiness — but instead of blaming the system that created those conditions, they blame women. They’ll…
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The Policing of Black Female Sexuality: A History Written on Our Bodies
There is something deeply exhausting about living in a world where your body is never simply your own. For Black women, sexuality has never been allowed to exist in peace. It has been surveilled, dissected, judged, legislated, mocked, feared, exploited, and weaponized for centuries. Black female sexuality exists under a microscope built by racism, patriarchy,…
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Penis Envy🍆🍆🍆🍆🍆🍆
The phrase “penis envy” comes from early psychoanalytic theory—specifically from Sigmund Freud, who introduced it in the early 20th century. Let’s break it down plainly, without the academic fog. What Freud meant by it Freud believed that during early childhood development (around ages 3–6), girls become aware that boys have a penis and they don’t.…
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She Doesn’t Sing for You
A woman who doesn’t need male approval steps outside a script that’s been rehearsed for generations—be agreeable, be chosen, be validated. When she doesn’t play that role, it unsettles folks who are used to that dynamic. Not because she’s harmful, but because she’s uncontrollable in a world that often expects women to be responsive to…
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Solid Ground: What Real Leadership Looks Like in a Man
A healthy definition of leadership—coming from a man who actually understands the assignment—isn’t about being the loudest voice in the room or the one everybody fears. That’s not leadership. That’s insecurity in a suit. A real one leads like this: He takes responsibility before he takes credit.If something goes wrong, he steps forward. If something…
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America: The Reality Show
Living in a reality-television world is a relatively new phenomenon in American society. Spectacle itself isn’t new—human beings have always gathered around drama, gossip, and public conflict—but modern media turned that ancient habit into a permanent stage. Reality television blurred the line between private life and public performance. Ordinary people became characters, their arguments, romances,…
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What About the Children?
When I’m cruising around the social media, I never hear these niggas say ‘Pro Black children.’ Never. Why is that? Because that would require them to actually give a damn beyond running their mouths. Everybody got a dissertation on being ‘pro-Black’ when it comes to policing women, arguing online, puffing their chest out, and performing…
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A Dedication to the Juke Joints of Chicago
They don’t put you in the brochures,don’t line you up along the lakefrontlike polished teeth in a tourist smile—but baby, you are the heartbeat. You are where the city exhales. Down on the South Side,in rooms low-lit and thick with memory,where the floor knows more storiesthan any history book ever printed,you breathe. You hum.You testify.…
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