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Black Incel Culture: When Male Loneliness Turns Into Hatred of Black Women
By The Potty Mouth Granny There is something deeply disturbing happening in the Black dating community, and I think it’s time we had an uncomfortable conversation about it. I’m talking about the growing visibility of Black incel culture, the manosphere, and the increasingly hostile attitudes toward Black women that have found a home on social…
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Soft Sheen: The Black-Owned Company That Helped Shape More Than Our Hair
If you grew up in a Black household during the 1970s, 1980s, or 1990s, chances are Soft Sheen products lived somewhere in your home. Maybe it was a jar of Care Free Curl moisturizer sitting on the bathroom sink. A tub of Sportin’ Waves on your father’s dresser. A bottle of Let’s Jam keeping somebody’s…
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If I Was Black and Male For A Day
First of all, before I write this essay, I would like to state that I love being a Black woman. I love the beautiful brownness of my skin, my hair which is a crown that has anointed me Queen of my universe, my full lips, slanted eyes, and the strength of my ancestors who endured…
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The Romanticization of Marriage Amongst Black Folks
Every day on social media, Black people bewail the lack of marriage in the community. Folks write think pieces, make podcasts, go live for three hours at a time mourning the “breakdown of the Black family” like they’re standing over a gravesite in a church hat and hard-bottom shoes. But some of these same people…
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The Policing of Black Female Sexuality: A History Written on Our Bodies
There is something deeply exhausting about living in a world where your body is never simply your own. For Black women, sexuality has never been allowed to exist in peace. It has been surveilled, dissected, judged, legislated, mocked, feared, exploited, and weaponized for centuries. Black female sexuality exists under a microscope built by racism, patriarchy,…
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Solid Ground: What Real Leadership Looks Like in a Man
A healthy definition of leadership—coming from a man who actually understands the assignment—isn’t about being the loudest voice in the room or the one everybody fears. That’s not leadership. That’s insecurity in a suit. A real one leads like this: He takes responsibility before he takes credit.If something goes wrong, he steps forward. If something…
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Respectability Politics and the Policing of Black Male Love
It’s more acceptable for a Black man to have ten children with ten different women than for him to be gay—and that fact should stop us in our tracks. We live in a world where irresponsibility gets a pass if it performs masculinity the “right” way. A man can leave a trail of single mothers,…
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What Is Black?
“Black” is not a single thing. It’s a constellation. Black is a people, first—descendants of Africa scattered by history’s rough hands: trade winds, chains, migrations, love, survival. Not a monolith, not a hive mind. Nigerians, Haitians, Gullah Geechee, Afro-Brazilian, Black American, Somali, Jamaican—different tongues, foods, rhythms, gods, jokes. Same sun in the bones, different stories…
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The Madonna/Whore Complex and Black Folks
The Madonna/Whore Complex is already a cracked mirror. When you angle it toward Black people, the glass doesn’t just crack—it shatters, because race rewires the whole thing. Quick grounding: the Madonna–Whore Complex is the psychological habit (popularized by Freud, refined by feminists) of splitting women into two moral bins. One is pure, nurturing, worthy of…
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The Social Construct of Masculinity
Masculinity is a social construct—and that doesn’t make it fake. It makes it designed, like money, borders, or the concept of “professionalism.” Real in its effects. Invented in its rules. Biology gives us bodies: hormones, muscle distribution, voices that drop or don’t. That’s the raw clay. Masculinity is what societies sculpt out of that clay…
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