The Potty Mouth Granny

  • The Long Shadow of Patriarchy

    Patriarchy did not fall out of the sky one random Tuesday afternoon like bad weather. Human beings created it. Layer by layer. Rule by rule. Fear by fear. Property deed by property deed. And once you really start studying history, you realize patriarchy is not simply “men being in charge.” It is an entire social…

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  • Femininity, Performance, and Patriarchy

    A question I’ve often pondered is: why is femininity so often centered around men? Below are my thoughts on this question. For centuries, femininity was socially engineered around male desire, male comfort, and male approval. That’s the blunt truth sitting underneath all the lace and perfume. Women were not originally encouraged to “be feminine” for…

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  • She Doesn’t Sing for You

    A woman who doesn’t need male approval steps outside a script that’s been rehearsed for generations—be agreeable, be chosen, be validated. When she doesn’t play that role, it unsettles folks who are used to that dynamic. Not because she’s harmful, but because she’s uncontrollable in a world that often expects women to be responsive to…

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  • Breaking Up With a Word That Knows Me Too Well

    I’ve decided to stop using the N-word so much because, at its core, it’s an ignorant term. But let me not sit up here and lie. I get my sick kicks out of using it. There’s a spark in it for me—something rebellious, something familiar, something that rolls off the tongue a little too easy.…

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  • Not All Men—Just These Ones

    I really try my best not to man-bash, but mercy has its limits. Harder than a pimp’s heart, yes—and just as guarded. I don’t carry this irritation into my real life. The men I know in flesh and breath can look you in the eye, hold a thought, and say something with weight. They exist…

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  • The Social Construct of Masculinity

    Masculinity is a social construct—and that doesn’t make it fake. It makes it designed, like money, borders, or the concept of “professionalism.” Real in its effects. Invented in its rules. Biology gives us bodies: hormones, muscle distribution, voices that drop or don’t. That’s the raw clay. Masculinity is what societies sculpt out of that clay…

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  • Aging As a Woman

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  • Black Mean Girls & Why They Are Beyond Trifling

    I have noticed that it has become very trendy to be a mean spirited, spiteful, bitchy woo Black woman and this blog will discuss the reasons why this is trending and why it a pitiful phenomenon. The advent of reality television shows such as “The Bad Girls Club” and the entire Love and Hip Hop…

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  • The Art of Aging in a Culture That Worships Youth

    If the lord is willing and the creek don’t rise as the elders used to say, I will be 52 years old in November and what an amazing journey it has been. I have experienced so many trials and tribulations during my time on this planet. From childhood sexual abuse, domestic abuse, poverty, loss of…

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  • Madonna – My Boo

    I’ve loved the musical artist and cultural icon Madonna from the moment she burst upon the scene. It was in 1983 and her song “Holiday” was being played on radio stations everywhere. On January 14, she made her national debut on American Bandstand, a staple in households across the country and she was so cool…

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