The Potty Mouth Granny

  • The Gospel of Money and Clout

    All though Black folks love to claim religion, a whole lot of these motherfuckers ain’t really worshipping God. Let’s tell the truth and shame the devil. And let me say this before somebody starts clutching pearls: I’m not even a religious person at all. Never claimed to be. But one thing I do recognize from…

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  • Femininity, Performance, and Patriarchy

    A question I’ve often pondered is: why is femininity so often centered around men? Below are my thoughts on this question. For centuries, femininity was socially engineered around male desire, male comfort, and male approval. That’s the blunt truth sitting underneath all the lace and perfume. Women were not originally encouraged to “be feminine” for…

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  • The Policing of Black Female Sexuality: A History Written on Our Bodies

    There is something deeply exhausting about living in a world where your body is never simply your own. For Black women, sexuality has never been allowed to exist in peace. It has been surveilled, dissected, judged, legislated, mocked, feared, exploited, and weaponized for centuries. Black female sexuality exists under a microscope built by racism, patriarchy,…

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  • America: The Reality Show

    Living in a reality-television world is a relatively new phenomenon in American society. Spectacle itself isn’t new—human beings have always gathered around drama, gossip, and public conflict—but modern media turned that ancient habit into a permanent stage. Reality television blurred the line between private life and public performance. Ordinary people became characters, their arguments, romances,…

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  • What About the Children?

    When I’m cruising around the social media, I never hear these niggas say ‘Pro Black children.’ Never. Why is that? Because that would require them to actually give a damn beyond running their mouths. Everybody got a dissertation on being ‘pro-Black’ when it comes to policing women, arguing online, puffing their chest out, and performing…

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  • A Dedication to the Juke Joints of Chicago

    They don’t put you in the brochures,don’t line you up along the lakefrontlike polished teeth in a tourist smile—but baby, you are the heartbeat. You are where the city exhales. Down on the South Side,in rooms low-lit and thick with memory,where the floor knows more storiesthan any history book ever printed,you breathe. You hum.You testify.…

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  • The Origin of No-Fault Divorce (And Why Folks Love to Misunderstand It)

    Let’s talk about no-fault divorce—the thing folks, especially men online, love to blame for the downfall of the American family like it came through in the middle of the night and snatched stability right out the house. Now listen… I’m a history buff. And one thing about me? I’m not going to just accept a…

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  • Are Women the Reason Marriage Is Dying?

    Every few months, like clockwork, somebody somewhere declares that women have “ruined” marriage. We’re too independent. Too educated. Too loud. Too unwilling to “submit.” And I always pause when I hear that… not because I’m confused, but because I’m fascinated. Because what they’re really saying is: Marriage was working just fine… when women had no…

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  • Ain’t No Apology in My Story

    I can’t speak for all Black women, but I know this much—I don’t owe a motherfucker an explanation about anything in my life. I was a mother to two children by the age of twenty-one. I received welfare assistance. I didn’t get my GED until I was twenty-seven. I know what it means to start…

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  • Happy Women’s History Month!!!

    History is full of women who kicked the door open, got told to sit down, and then quietly built a whole other house behind the scenes anyway. Let’s wander through a few of them—some loud, some hidden, all undeniable. A Chinese pirate commanded 70,000 people Ching Shih wasn’t just a pirate—she was the pirate. She…

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