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The Policing of Black Female Sexuality: A History Written on Our Bodies
There is something deeply exhausting about living in a world where your body is never simply your own. For Black women, sexuality has never been allowed to exist in peace. It has been surveilled, dissected, judged, legislated, mocked, feared, exploited, and weaponized for centuries. Black female sexuality exists under a microscope built by racism, patriarchy,…
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Penis Envy🍆🍆🍆🍆🍆🍆
The phrase “penis envy” comes from early psychoanalytic theory—specifically from Sigmund Freud, who introduced it in the early 20th century. Let’s break it down plainly, without the academic fog. What Freud meant by it Freud believed that during early childhood development (around ages 3–6), girls become aware that boys have a penis and they don’t.…
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She Doesn’t Sing for You
A woman who doesn’t need male approval steps outside a script that’s been rehearsed for generations—be agreeable, be chosen, be validated. When she doesn’t play that role, it unsettles folks who are used to that dynamic. Not because she’s harmful, but because she’s uncontrollable in a world that often expects women to be responsive to…
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Solid Ground: What Real Leadership Looks Like in a Man
A healthy definition of leadership—coming from a man who actually understands the assignment—isn’t about being the loudest voice in the room or the one everybody fears. That’s not leadership. That’s insecurity in a suit. A real one leads like this: He takes responsibility before he takes credit.If something goes wrong, he steps forward. If something…
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America: The Reality Show
Living in a reality-television world is a relatively new phenomenon in American society. Spectacle itself isn’t new—human beings have always gathered around drama, gossip, and public conflict—but modern media turned that ancient habit into a permanent stage. Reality television blurred the line between private life and public performance. Ordinary people became characters, their arguments, romances,…
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What About the Children?
When I’m cruising around the social media, I never hear these niggas say ‘Pro Black children.’ Never. Why is that? Because that would require them to actually give a damn beyond running their mouths. Everybody got a dissertation on being ‘pro-Black’ when it comes to policing women, arguing online, puffing their chest out, and performing…
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A Dedication to the Juke Joints of Chicago
They don’t put you in the brochures,don’t line you up along the lakefrontlike polished teeth in a tourist smile—but baby, you are the heartbeat. You are where the city exhales. Down on the South Side,in rooms low-lit and thick with memory,where the floor knows more storiesthan any history book ever printed,you breathe. You hum.You testify.…
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Whole, With or Without Him
I’ve always joked that I’m the youngest only child—caught in that strange little space where the age and gender gap between me and my siblings made me feel like I was raised solo. But that strange little space turned out to be a gift. It taught me how to enjoy my own company. I had…
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Englewood: A Chicago Story of Rise, Rupture, and Relentless Survival
Early Days: From Prairie to Promise Before it became Englewood, it was open land—prairie stretching under a wide Midwestern sky. In the mid-1800s, the area began to develop as railroads cut through it, turning it into a vital transportation hub. By the late 19th century, Englewood was annexed into Chicago (1889), and the neighborhood began…
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When Grief Changes the Way You Love
For the past ten years, I’ve been looking at life through a different lens. I’ve lost so many family members and friends, there were moments I thought my heart might split open from the weight of it all. And somehow… I kept going. Through the pain. Through the sharp, relentless ache of grief. I endured.…
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